Did you ever try to turn the crank and have to force it to move? If things somehow got way too far out of alignment, you would end up with pistons hitting valves. Many years ago on my first M42, I did the timing job & things got misaligned to the point that the motor ran, but was hitting valves. Somehow it never caused damage & it ran fine.
When it turns over, are you hearing any abnormal noises? Pistons hitting valves sounds a lit like a diesel motor running, which can also be confused with really really loud lifter slap. When you say that the starter goes, but the crank stops...what do you mean exactly?
I would not worry too much about the piece of plug you pushed into the bellhousing, it won't get into the motor. Also, hooking the ignition up wrong should not be a big deal...worst case you would get heavy backfiring & have blown apart some stuff in the intake, but you would probably know. You might have also had some knock, but it would have been very brief before the motor stalled.
Any check engine lights? Perhaps you just forgot to reconnect the crank position sensor?