ah didn't notice these replies. d clay there is plenty of oil pressure out of the valve cap, i don't think i said that there was a prob there - either that or just me being depressed about the damn car. i questioned whether enough was coming through the breather, on inspection it was fine. scoring on inlet cam was strange, but that was there before i owned the car, so who knows. tappet clearance is spot on now and tappets are silent.
i still have a pretty major tapping noise, getting worse and worse. i've ran it to a local garage who have no ideas either. i've just built up a new late spec head with some re-lapped valves and new stem seals etc that i'm going to stick on, hopefully tmrw, will also take it to bmw specialists nearby. i'm hoping when i tear it down i'll find the culprit. i've considered whether its little ends, as i'm not 100% what they sound like, but seeing the engine is 10k miles and 6 months old and built by an engine shop i trust i'm not convinced. don't have many other ideas though.
as for injector noise, injectors make noises at different frequencies depending on the fuel injection system. e30 m42 fires the injectors in alternating batches (1+3, 2+4). i don't know the standard number of squirts per cycle. mine on MS did 2 squirts per cycle, alternating (to minimise pressure drop in the rail). injectors can tick on opening and closing, or just on opening.