1. what are the plugs on my car suppose to be really gaped too?
Don't recall off the top of my head. However, dual diode plugs should be pre-gaped as it's not as easy to fit a gaping tool in there. I could be wrong, but I doubt it
2. Since autozone say i crossed the wires to the plugs, can someone here supply me with a Picture of where and what wires plug into whitch plugs.
There should be a black cover at the coil pack where the wires attach. It should have numbers on it. 1, 2, 3, 4. If not, while standing at the passenger side looking into the engine bay the coil pack will assume the shape of a square. The bottom right (closest to you on the right) will be #1. Bottom left #2. Top left #3. Top right #4. The matching cylinders go from radiator to firewall 1, 2, 3, 4.
3. can i shop vacume the black gas out of the cylinder,
Don't bother, it will push out.
4. what are some ways to clean out black gas
See #3
5. is it okay to spray carb cleaner in cylinder.
Yes. Spray it and then leave the plugs out so it's vents to the atmosphere for a few minutes. After that put your plugs in.
6. WHAT is your input on my situation.
Autozone is full of morons
p.s what in the hell is a stomp test and will it be useful in my situation?
Turn the key as far as you can without starting it. Push the accelerator down five times quickly. The check engine light will flash once and then start giving you flashes like mores code. Example blink pause blink blink pause blink pause blink pause will be code 1211.
Here is what the codes mean
http://www.scribd.com/doc/12801540/Bmw-Motronic-Codes