I think they want you above 3 grand on the highway. On our wimpy 55 speed limit highways im doing 60 in 4th, incase i have to pass at ~70 i can pull very easily in the 3k+ rpms. 5th gear at 80 mph sounds about right at 4grand
Correct.
There is a ratio of street/low rpm driving vs. high rpm driving in the book that came with the car.
I cruise the highway at lower speeds. No reason to keep that thing wound out it will shorten the lifespan of the engine over time if you do this frequently.
That is not entirely correct.
In most of the engine there is little metal to metal contact and the cylinders have been known to exceed 500k. I don't think we have to worry.
Besides, these are BMW's, granny drive it? What the hell is the point?
I get annoyed seeing someone driving one slow as it hurts the engine more than driving it hard.
There are more than a few of us who will attest that these engines NEED to be wrung out regularly. Many of us purposely redline our engines almost every time we drive them.