I'm not exactly Stock guy (more of an SP guy, with a stint in EP), but you're on the right track.
You're missing two things, as far as I can tell:
A) Tires
B) Front swaybar
I'd start with a big front swaybar - as big as you can get. That said, it sounds like you want help with what you've GOT, not what you could have:).
Tire pressures - they sound too high to me, too, but more like 6-8psi. As far as I know, the Azenis will behave like a normalish tire with regard to the "chalk" test - use shoepolish or chalk on the edge of the tire, see how far it is rolling over under load - optimize the front pressure with that (or better yet, a pyrometer), then leave it there. For the rear, do the same, but once you've got the rear "right," you probably want to leave it alone.
Konis - adjust the fronts to full stiff, put the rears on full soft. If it pushes (which sounds like it'd be a welcome problem), take damping out of the front in 1/2 turn increments. If you wind up full soft in the front, add 1/2 turn rear (are your rears externally adjustable, or remove-compress-turn?).
I'm not sure the offset upper strut mounts are legal in Stock - Arthur, are they a factory recommended repair? I guess they must be.
Disclaimer - NOT suggesting you're cheating, Arthur! I just don't know if those are legal in class; we tossed a competitor at Nationals a few years ago for putting the correct strut mounts in backwards(resulted in more caster on that car). Just want to make sure - if those _are_ legal (and the more I think about it, the more I think they must be, unless they're some sort of ///M madness), get them. Cheap, and camber helps. Yeah, you don't want MORE front grip as it sits, but you should want more front grip - it is typically easier to make a car understeer than oversteer.
Rule of thumb in Stock category:
The car must sit AS DELIVERED on the grid, with the obvious exceptions - front bar, catback, etc. Just because another E30 came with 7s does not mean YOU can use them. Just noted someone saying that on the other forum - dealer installed != ok, has to have been a factory option. I am not aware of 7s being an option on 91 318is.
Heh, was just sitting here thinking about it - I've driven my 318is on a few autocross courses; my wife used it for a couple of driver's schools. Mine is set up similarly to yours - new control arms, M rear c-arm bushings (ok, so it is not stock _legal_, but it is not my primary autocross car), Bilstein Sports, new strut bushings, new tie rods, brakes, blah blah blah. Stock swaybars, no LSD (dammit). It has Yokohama AVS ES100s - about 85% of an Azenis. All told, our cars are fairly similar.
Mine is not oversteery at _all_. It is really fun to drive on an autocross course, I can make it oversteer, but it is not loose in the slightest. I don't think your tire pressures are so far off that they're creating the problem, quite frankly.
How long have you been autocrossing? I'm thinking the loose condition has to do (possibly, and please do NOT take offense - I'm trying to help) might be driver induced.
I _can_ make mine oversteer (occasionally drifted it for giggles), but it is controllable. It sounds like you're having trouble controlling the oversteer in yours. I wonder if you're being too abrupt with it - if I wanted mine to rotate, I'd lift, turn in fairly abruptly (lift to load the fronts, then turn in while the rear is light), then catch it _with_ the gas. IE, get it loose, get it to rotate, then transfer weight to the rear with the gas pedal.
It almost sounds like you've got the opposite - you're turning in late, abruptly, then worsening the issue with the throttle.
Just a thought/observation - I may well be wrong, but from what you've said, either you have a gross alignment issue or you're being too aggressive - don't slow down, but look ahead more, make bigger arcs, turn the car well before the cone, as opposed to after it.
Make sense? That's the only way I can envision mine being uncontrollable/way too loose - if I was playing catchup and being violent with the car - it liked to be led into stuff - lift a bit, turn in, balance it with the throttle.
Just a thought! Who is fast in your region? IMHO, it does not matter what they drive - driving is driving, save A Mod or shifter karts - a stiffer, more responsive car might let you get away with more (but bite harder when it does), ehh, who knows - find a fast Stock category person, take them for a ride.
Hopefully, that helps some - but in my experience with BMWs & autocrossing, I'd start out by putting the fronts full stiff, rears full soft (that'll help with inside wheelspin, too), make earlier inputs and be friendly with the gas - in mine, I was foot to the floor, well, all the damned time, but if you snap the throttle open while the rear tires are near their limit, they're going to let go - 115hp or 400hp:).
Good luck, keep us posted!
Iain