So... I am still dealing with this problem. The car sat for a while as I was too busy to deal with it but I want it back on the road! I replaced all the grounds, battery and coils, plugs and plug wires. No change.
I got out the volt meter and found only 6-8volts on the "bad" coil plug. Tested for continuity from dme harness to coil plug-good, tested for resistance from theharness to coil plug-good(same as other 3 wires to dme) tested voltage at dme (pin 52) and voltage is only 6-8 volts!? Other coil pins are normal 14ish. Oddly I tried another dme off the shelf from an e36 m42 (still a 175 dme) and the same thing. Is there a probable chance that they both have the same problem and I need to repair mine? Or is there something else to look at? This problem is Killin me! If I move the coils around the problem stays with pin 52 power so the coils should be fine as well.( Along with being new bav auto coils)