The passenger side hose is the cold hose (the coolant that passed through the radiator goes through it). It should remain cool/luke-warm to the touch when the car is warmed up. The top hose shoudl get hot, like you mentioned.
Typically, the thermostats fail in an open position & run the motor too cold (a fail-safe built into their design). It COULD somehow be stuck closed. Before doing much else though, try bleeding the coolant system. Get the car fully warmed up and then park it on level ground. Keep it idling, and have some pre-mixed coolant & water handy for topping-off the reservoir. Take the cap off and open the bleed screw ~2 turns. Rev the motor to 2500RPM. If there is air in the system, it should sputter out of the bleed screw. Once the coolant comes out mostly uninterrupted, you are done & close the bleed screw & tank.
If that doesn't help, then maybe the thermostat is plugged. You'll need a new thermostat (88C one) & a thermostat housing gasket. Make sure that the little bypass groove in the housing is clear before reassembly. Fill the system as high as it will go until the level stops dropping in the tank. Open the bleed screw and rev it to 2500RPM. That should push out almost all of the air all at once. Then close the screw, let it warm up and then open the screw to get the last few bubbles out while revving it.