I'll bet from looking at that plug that you're running rich on that cylinder. If your compression is good I'd check the injectors & coil. A bad coil can damage the driver and vice versa. Don't run the good DME for long until you've checked the coil...a bad coil will eventually destroy the DME.
Alternatively, you might have a bad coil and/or damaged coil driver in the bad DME. If you have some time, open it up & take a look at the driver transistors at the right side of the board...they're under a steel clip & plastic insulator. Usually it's easy to tell if they're bad...they will look visibly burned-out. PM me for some pictures if you're ion doubt. If the DME is bad, would you sell it for a few bucks? I'm looking to resurrect one of mine that died the same way...
Yep, the AFM can be adjusted. Pop off the plastic cover (it's only a bead of silicone sealing, most likely). Adjust the clock wheel one notch at a time. It's not a process for the faint of heart, I'm afraid. I'd be tempted to try it out if I had an EGO setup though.
Here's a writeup for the Bosch AFM:
http://www.gomog.com/articles/EFIflap.htmlIt's an earlier model (I'm betting off an LH-Jet system) but they're all very similar. Ignore his description of the CO pot screw, it's only effective if you plug those two wires together on the firewall for non-cat cars.