There's a big thread over on R3v about this. If I find it I'll post it. +1 on Shifty's suggestion:
http://www.1010tires.com/wheeloffsetcalculator.aspAre you 100% sure on that offset? My stock 6j14 bottlecaps are et35. If my math is correct, half the rim width + offset (- spacer) = inner overhang. Three inches is about 75mm, plus the 35mm offset = 110mm overhang, or about 4 1/2".
Given that "safe margin," 110mm, you'll get a different value for each width. To maintain that figure, rims would require the following offsets:
A 7" rim would have maybe 24mm offset, and stick out 26mm, another inch
8" with 12mm offset, 50mm more outboard (two more inches here)
9" at zero offset would stick out 3" further
10" is crazy talk and you shouldn't think about it.
I've had 8x16's on my car and would not advise it. The tires needed to be 235/40 R16, they made the ride very harsh, rubbed the front wheel wells and didn't wear very well. Many sizes will need spacers. If you decide to go that route, make sure they're high-grade metal and hub-centric. I'd suggest a max of 15mm thick spacers with extended lug bolts, install racing studs if you need more space.
Personally, the biggest I'd go is a 15" rim. IMHO they just look "right."