That's a tough one to troubleshoot. A reversed battery could have caused all sorts of havoc...I hooked up a single circuit backwards once & melted a 14 gauge wire in a few seconds! Worse, about half the car is directly wired to the battery...no fuses at all...but hopefully the damage wasn't too bad. Most of the Bosch stuff is pretty tough. Did you take the fuse box apart to verify that the main power bus is still intact? There are a few diodes that you'll want to check, and some relays are have built-in protection (resistors or diodes) that might have been damaged.
If you don't get a check engine light, either the bulb is burned out or the DME isn't getting power. You tested the trunk fusible link and the power o the DME though, that seems OK. Once you get that sorted, try stomp test. It's not the greatest system, but it's better than nothing. It'll give good hints, might help to chase down your problem.
Looks like you've been all over that car. The only thing that looks wrong to me is the crank sensor resistance. If that sensor doesn't send a perfect signal the fuel pump will never run.
Specifications are 640ohms, +-10% (roughly 580 min/700 max) and the air gap on the trigger wheel shouldn't be any more than 1mm...about as thick as a credit card. Also, if the crank sensor face is oily & coated with rust, it won't send a good signal. Then the DME won't ground the fuel pump relay and the pump never turns on.
They're pretty expensive (and usually not returnable), so if you can swap a known good unit it'll save a lot of time & trouble.
You're right that a bad alt won't be part of the trouble during a jump start or with a fresh battery. It'll kill a good battery quickly though if it's been overheated or shorted out internally. You might want to have it tested at a local parts store, though I'd be looking for a specialist instead. Rebuilt Bosch alternators (& starters) are crazy expensive.