Ok so, finally got under there and pulled the o2 sensor. It was caked in carbon and looked quite terrible. I still tried to clean and replace.. nothing has changed.
I then moved back to the intake (all new hoses and a cleaned ICV) to thoroughly re-inspect for any possibly intake leaks.. nothing was found. I removed my AFM and looked to see if anything looked out of the ordinary.. looked like there was some kind of "grease" or something inside the AFM!
So I wiped it all out, then used some seafoam to clean off the little electric thing poking out of the top of the AFM. Replaced, and still having the crazy idle.
I already ordered my o2 sensor. I got it from
http://www.autopartswarehouse.com instead of pelican.. it was like $78 for a Bosch one with an "extended" wire.. I'll just wrap the wire and have no problems.
I also did a stomp test and it came back 1444 - No faults found. Hopefully I can sort this out soon before I go crazy.
I'll keep this up to date when I replace the o2 sensor.