update:
car is now serviced

new , oil , filters, plugs.
oil used penrite sin 5w-60w + slick50 synth with ryco filter
plugs Bosch super four the new ones

K&N filter cleaned and recharged.
ignition leads tested and are 100%
air flow meeter and intake tract along with throttle body assembly cleaned using carby/choke cleaner. (oil vapor catch recirculating system to be implemented)
oil and service light reset,(using miscellaneous 1" bit of wire found amungst top desk draw full of other shit!)
BMW runs much much better ,with the only noise that I'm not 100% complacent with being ticking injectors, all that is audible over the hum of the m42 now.
running and mixture issues would be directly related to dirty air flow meeter, throttle assembly and worn plugs.
engine nose, possible poor mixture and running along with incorrect and failing stability of oil chosen.
till i find moor time to tinker
cheers all