Ok, did a major cleanup of the whole thread, it should be much more relevant and understandable now.
So basically it has all come down to this:
as someone said:
Hardware is only as good as the software
It doesn't matter if the hardware can support lots of stuff, but if you have the software to utilize it…
So I downloaded and checked the software for different standalones, and was quite surprised.
For example VEMS and MS actually use the same software: MegaTune.
So this in fact may justify the huge price range of standalone systems.
For example software provided with the Link standalones is more friendlier and easier to understand than the complex and universal MegaTune (judging from the looks anyway, as I hadn't any experience in tuning with either), and I imagine that MoTeC has an even more advanced and friendlier software
So if deciding which management system to use, be sure to check the software out, as the quality of the tools often reflects the quality of the job
As for me, I think I will go with the MSII-extra, as it provides the same features as VEMS for a slightly lower price, but mainly because the amount of manuals and support is far greater for the MS than for VEMS, and MS certainly has a bright future, as it has gathered a great momentum and support with the enthusiast crowd.
You can find some additional info by reading
this thread I started at bimmerforums