Thanks guys!!
As for diagnostics and codes. I still have the diagnostic port, however, being a 1980 E21, they didn't have engine check lights, so I can't get any feed from the DME.
I did do my own version of a stomp test though....lots of vulgar language, don't recommend it

In terms of wiring, I'm only connected by the following through the C101 to the E21s fuse box.
Oil Pressure Switch
Fuel Pump Power
Alternator Exciter
Switched Power to O2 sensor heater
ECU Power
Starter Signal
Coolant Temperature (Gauge)
Tachometer
Everything else is negated since the e21 is wired up differently.
Meh, no worries....I did refresh the internals of the m42, but the electronic related stuff is fairly old, plus I'm using a duralast battery that dura-don't-last, I'm sure the spike originated from there, killed a coil, sending a failure to the DME's ignition module. The battery had to be charged every few days, I'm gonna say that's where my culprit lies....on that day when my first attempt to start failed, I immediately thought it was the battery, i got it charged and still no start. My first attempt after my friend drove the car had to have shorted the coil.
So I'm going to start with a coil pack....thinking about just going COP to eliminate the spark plug wires...might as well get a spare DME. If both work, I can MarkD chip one of them....
But again, thank you for all the help. I'll keep you guys posted on what happens.