To be honest my car handles very very simmilar to how it did before the swap. I am using Korman's Clubsport suspension for an e30 m3. But a large factor is that I have done a lot of weight reduction to the front of the car. I weighed my car before and after the swap and its actually lighter now. Thats obv not due to the motor but to what I have removed from the car. My car is very neutral but I can bring the back end out whenever I want due to the increase in TQ, and keep it in when I want.
The 24v swap is not for everyone but it can be a good option. Depending on what you want to do w/ your car a turbo m42 may be a better option. I would steer clear from a m20 or m30 at all costs though.
I am considering picking up a 318ti really soon. It will be the DD but it might eventually get turbo'ed.
I guess it all comes down to what your plans are for the car and how good you are working on cars or writing checks.
Everyone I have talked to with a 318 and 325 says is very noticeable. Not bad driving, but not tossable like the 318 is. The fact that you lightened your car that much is probably why yours drives well.
How noticeable, well some have said they wished they had kept the 318, and one of the mechanics from Metric Mechanic was planning a nice 3.2 stroker, but after driving Febi's car, those plans have now changed.
With aftermarket suspension and lots of weight reduction I have no doubt that your car drives just as well, but toss in the lighter engine again, and how much better would it drive than it already does. How much do you have invested in weight reduction, swap and suspension? A bit more than just an engine swap I would imagine.